Dear Married Man

Life Letters

[Disclaimer: My writings are strictly creative and shouldn’t be taken literally.]

Dear Married Man,

Does your wife realize how unhappy you are? You move through every day just going through the motions, feeling neglected. Every single moment of your home life is routine. There is no excitement or adventure in your marriage. Just a rude routine and it kills you.

You feel guilty. You feel guilty because you dread the idea of spending the rest of your life with a woman who you never truly loved. A woman who never understood you. You feel guilty because deep down inside you knew this before you married the Mrs.

But you went ahead and did it anyway. Why? Because it was the right thing to do. You were getting older and your mother was hounding you for grandbabies. Your best buddies were getting engaged and you didn’t want to be the odd one out. The lonely one. The immature one. A playboy had to become an honest man one day right? Wrong.

So you went through with it and now you’re just going through it. How do you cope with laying next to a woman who makes your stomach churn? Tell me, how do you do it?

You don’t. Your wife doesn’t know it yet but you are living a double life. I won’t call you a cheater because that’s too harsh. It’s too gritty and dirty. You’re too smooth for that.

You are an escapist. With every affair you escape and create a fantasy free of restriction. You release your inhibitions on her body. You can finally be your authentic self with her.

She is your ideal fantasy. She is more than just another piece of flesh. She is freedom. She is hope. She is the spark that you look forward too. She is the being that speaks to your truest self. You don’t have to lie to her.

But you lie to yourself and you lie to your wife. While your wife cries herself to sleep because of another lonely night, you cry on the inside. So married man, what will you do? Will you spend the next 50 years with this woman or will you free yourself? Because you will die a broken man if you continue this charade.

Signed,

G

Dear Sweet Red Wine

Life Letters

[Disclaimer: My writings are strictly creative and shouldn’t be taken literally.]

Dear Sweet Red Wine,

I admit that there were many others before you. I admit that you were not my first drink of choice. My affair with Hennessy must have broken your heart. To see me fill my insides with such a toxic substance. I must have been out of my mind.

But you have to understand that nothing compares to your sweet taste. You are my happiness after a long work week. You are my escape from the void of loneliness that fills me. You were my comfort in my darkest moments. I found my sanity in my solace when I discovered you.

So I will hold you close to me and we’ll spend many moons together.

Signed,

G

Dear You

Life Letters

Dear You,

I know that you are reading this now and you’re scared. You maybe reading this from the comfort of your bed. Or maybe you’re in the middle of a class you hate. Maybe you’re sneaking on your phone during your lunch break. Hopefully, you’re not driving.

Before continuing any further, I want you to take 20 seconds and look at your environment. Put the phone down, really look at your immediate environment. Did you like what you saw?

You and I have something in common. We both have these flawed ideas that prevent us from living up to our potential. We believe that success and happiness is in the future. We believe that our best lives are in the future. Maybe we’re right. Hopefully, the people we are 20 years from now have accomplished every goal and fulfilled every dream.

However, we must ask ourselves, “What is preventing me from living up to my potential NOW?” Now we can sit and blame it on time. There simply isn’t enough hours in the day to do everything. We can sit and blame it on the lack of resources. If only we had enough money to pursue our passions. We can even blame our shitty families and toxic friends. It’s them that’s holding us back. It’s the world that’s holding us back. If only we could break through every obstacle and persevere. Right? Wrong.

If you haven’t figure it out by now, the single thing that holds us back is ourselves. Our limited perspective of the world and perception of ourselves is what prevents us from making the necessary decisions to enhance our lives. We are to blame. We have made too many excuses and not enough conscious choices. We have allowed ourselves to become victims of our experiences. We are not as progressed as we like to believe because we have given permission to all of these outside forces to control our lives. We are to blame.

Doesn’t that empower you? To realize that you have been in the driver’s seat this whole time except, you haven’t realized the key to start this journey has been in your pocket. You have fooled yourself. I have fooled myself. Aren’t we crazy?

The good thing my friend is that it doesn’t have to be this way forever. We have a choice. We have always had a choice. The choices we have made have led us to this breakthrough. Now I’m not going to sit up here and tell you step by step how to improve your circumstances. I cannot give you the map of your destiny. It is up to you to create your own path.

But I can plant the seed that sparks the fire inside of you to make a decision. You can either walk away right now and continue to blindly sleep through life. Or you can have the courage to remove your blindfold and awake. The choice is yours. Choose wisely.

Signed,

G